Fresh Starts

Hello and welcome.

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Today's episode is all about fresh starts.

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This podcast is a fresh start for us and we wanted to give you a little bit of background

about us, your hosts.

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Then we'll chat about what you can do if you're going through a fresh start or how to

start your own fresh start.

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Kat, why don't you start?

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well...

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I was just gonna say, let's share a little bit about yourself for the listeners so they

know who's that.

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Yeah, I'm excited.

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I'm excited to co-host this podcast with you.

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And I hope we have a lot of, you know, fresh faces, people who haven't come across us

online before.

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So if you haven't, I'm Kat.

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I am a solo mama to boy girl twins.

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And for the last 10, 11 years, I've been working primarily in the online space.

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I've been self-employed, mostly in the personal finance space.

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So I've done a lot of freelance writing and work with banks and video work.

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And I wrote a book called mom's got money.

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Cause I love helping moms, uh, just make life a little bit better and easier.

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And yeah, thanks.

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And that's actually how I met Andrew and he and I have been working together for almost

six years.

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Now we've done a lot of different projects together.

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And I think this is, you know, I know this is our first episode, but I think it's our

favorite so far because no matter what we've been doing, no matter what sort of thing

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we've created, websites, products, courses, we're, we are personal development nerds.

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We are personal development, like book junkie.

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It's like we, it's like the common thread.

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No matter what we're doing, we love self-improvement.

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It's just.

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kind of our jam.

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Yeah, I think that's great.

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Did you have anything else you wanted to add?

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I didn't want to cut you off.

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No, but I think I kind of did that already.

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it.

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That's a sum of it.

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I mean, what should I have said?

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Ha ha.

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I think, I think it's great.

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I think it's, it's a really good, uh, summation.

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I mean, this is the first episode, so, you know, we're just going to.

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Oh yeah.

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Yeah.

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So I'll start with mine.

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I was born on a very hot summer day back in, uh, no, I'm just kidding.

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Uh, my name is Andrew.

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Uh, I've been online for a decade now too.

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Um, ish and I've been working with Kat, but she's like, she's took all my talking points.

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So I'm like, what, what am I?

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Uh,

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I'm a solo.

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Yeah, I'm a solo dad.

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I am currently on a fresh start myself and just finding out a lot about who I am.

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And I'm really, really grateful for this podcast.

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It's something that I wanted to do for a very, very long time.

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And I feel like this when the idea of this came up about a year ago.

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I was really excited about it and if I'm still excited about it a year later finally

getting to it, I know I'm on the right track.

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Even if I'm excited a week later, but like this excitement has never stopped.

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So pretty jazzed about all of this.

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And do people still say jazz?

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Probably not.

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Probably not, but that makes it totally fine for you to say.

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Yeah, just, I mean, they stopped saying that in the forties probably, but that's okay.

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Um, yeah.

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So I am also on a fresh start.

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I have, uh, had many hats.

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I've been an accountant.

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I've been a web developer.

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I've been a marketer, a web designer, and now I'm kind of getting more into, uh, energy

healing and stuff like that.

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And I'm really excited about all that stuff, but.

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I've always kind of just followed my muse in one way or another, and it's been a really

interesting life that way.

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And this podcast feels like a culmination of a lot of different things.

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So I'm really excited for the show and the just all of it.

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I'm super pumped about this.

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Yeah, me too.

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And we've talked about doing a podcast together a couple times before.

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We have a website that we co-own called Millennial Homeowner.

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We talked about doing a podcast with that.

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And we've even gone so far as to make intros and it just nothing quite felt right until we

landed on this idea, 5-year you.

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And I don't know, I'm really pumped about it too.

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It's really the first one that's felt right.

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That's felt like we can use all of our experience.

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all the highs and lows, everything that's happened over the last few years and really

apply it, not to help people from a higher place or anything like that, but to say like,

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hey, we're on this journey called life too, all kinds of things happen, this is how we

deal with it in a healthy way, here's what we've learned, here are new things that we're

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trying because you can guarantee we're always trying new things, whether it's a app or

book or who knows what.

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Yeah, and I think that's such a key point.

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Like this is a fresh start.

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It's a fresh start for the podcast.

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And I think fresh starts can be as scary as they are exciting.

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And I think that's kind of the energy that I have right now.

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It's like it's that nervous excitement and it's a good feeling.

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But if you don't know that feeling and what it actually is, it can be a little.

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challenging to know, okay, am I actually afraid or am I nervous, excited?

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And it's a nervous, excited for sure.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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And I think that people go through fresh starts all the time, right?

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And so a lot of people listening to this, they might be wanting a fresh start.

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They might wanna initiate a fresh start, whether it's like a fresh start in their

relationship, a fresh start in how they interact with their kids.

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Maybe they're just like tired of being the parent who yells and they wanna turn over a new

leaf with that.

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We talked to a lot of people.

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who want to quit their jobs and become online entrepreneurs like we are, sometimes the

fresh start sort of happens to you, right?

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We've had a lot of friends who have been fired and that's how they start their online job.

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I've had a lot of people, I don't know, they get dumped and then it's sort of like there's

all these silver linings from it.

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And so these fresh starts are sort of part of life.

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And...

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In this episode, I want to highlight the good things that can come from it in a different

way to look at fresh starts.

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Yeah, like there's definitely a wide range of fresh starts.

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You can have them in all areas of life.

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You know, when you're going through that fresh start, I think it's a.

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I think change is the only constant and you know, like when you can kind of accept that

you're always going to be changing in life one way or another, it's a little bit easier to

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start the journey.

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I think the hardest part for most of us is when we get put on a fresh start.

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And we're still clinging to that rope or monkey bar and you, you know, you need to let go

cause like you got to grab the next one, but it can be challenging in the moment and it's

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okay for it to be challenging.

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I think a lot of it is just owning where you are in that moment and being true to your

feelings and going like, Hey, I'm terrified right now.

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I don't know what.

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What the next step is.

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I don't know what to do.

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I'm, I think we've all been, uh, I know you and I have both been in those situations where

you're just kind of like, you know, deer in the headlights and you're going, Whoa, whoa,

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what now?

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And cause it's, there's no playbook for it.

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There's no playbook for your life.

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You get to make it.

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Yeah.

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what's comfortable.

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We get used to our jobs.

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We get used to, you know, we get in these habits and it's sort of how things are.

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And so if you wanna shake it up or if something happens and shakes it up for you, that is

sort of where we'd like to begin.

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And I think it'd be fun, Andrew, if you could share.

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Like what the five year you concept is, why we named the podcast that and how it relates

to fresh starts and.

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Yeah.

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So the five year you concept came from, uh, I, I had this idea.

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And in his book, the success principles, he talks about having a five year you party where

you show up at the party today as the version of yourself five years from now.

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And what that does, uh, so he went to one of these parties and it sounded so cool to like

show up as the person you want to be five years from now, rather than feeling stuck in

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that person that you are.

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And what it did was it took that energy.

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And of that person that you want to be, and you were allowed to express it in whatever

way.

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And he said, like, some people were like.

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You know, stockbrokers and they were talking on their phone the whole night, uh,

fictitiously going, yeah, going buy, sell, buy, sell.

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Uh, another guy was, um, he was retired.

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So he was in like, he showed up in Hawaii shirt and, and sure.

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And was handing out lottery tickets to everyone.

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So, uh, you know, it's, the idea of it though, was when you get yourself into that energy,

that mindset of,

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you want to be.

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You set your sights on a, I don't want to say a goal because it's not that it's an

identity.

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It's that person you feel you want to be and you can own that today.

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You don't have to change anything in your outer world to be that person, to start being

that person.

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It's not going to change overnight.

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It's not going to change in an instant, but you then kind of have that idea of who you

want.

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So we've got our

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home study kit and everything for this because it's just such a vital, uh, it's such a new

way to live.

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And I've found personally, I can know when I'm in alignment with my five year self and

when I am not in alignment.

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And I think a lot of it is really good to know just by going, okay, I want to be this

person and I'm not being true to this person.

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And we'll get into the concept in a wider range.

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a little bit later, sorry, I'm just going to redo that because, yeah.

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So the idea of this whole concept is that we want to embody that person or at least know

who that person is and then start trying to be that person more every day.

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So maybe you're a little more active, maybe you're a little kinder, maybe you're up

earlier, whatever it is, you can embody all those things inside yourself at any given

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moment.

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I love that.

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No, that's okay.

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I love that idea.

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And I think a big part of what we're talking about with fresh starts is that we all know

where we stand now.

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And if the fresh start was like abrupt, you can sort of be honest with yourself and write

down exactly how you are right now.

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So you might feel.

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tired, depressed, overweight, you know, hating your job, not wanting to go to work,

unfulfilled in your relationships, stressed out about your kids and your responsibilities.

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And then you can sit and imagine this five-year version of you showing up to a party, and

you can ask yourself, what does she look like?

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What did, what does five-year cat wear to the party?

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Who is she with?

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Whose house is she going to?

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kind of food do they have?

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You know?

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She just dressed up, she's taking care of herself, and she worked out that morning.

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And you can sort of compare who you are now to that person who shows up.

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Yeah, exactly.

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And for, and for me, I mean, like, I'm sorry, you said cat at a party and my, my brain

kind of went kind of just stumbled for a second there.

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So, cause I know you're

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first of all, cat's at the party and that is the miracle of the five-year cat.

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And I'm not saying, like, I'm still going to be mean, so those new to me just hardcore

introvert and I own it.

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I am okay with that.

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I have accepted that I am very happy reading my book Home on the Couch and I don't want to

go to a party, but if I'm there in five years, those people are probably amazing because

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So fun, so amazing, so intelligent, such great friends that I went to.

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And yeah, that says something.

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I hope I'm invited to that party because I know you have a, you have a very, it does.

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And I, I so desperately want to know what it's like to be cool five years from now.

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Um, I'll get there.

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Um, so I think you're absolutely right.

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Like when we're starting out, it's just all about asking yourself, where am I?

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So, um, and that can be a little hard, but.

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If I'm to pick up the phone and call you and say, hey, I need directions to your house,

the very first thing you're gonna ask me is, where are you?

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Yeah, where are you?

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What are you in?

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Are you walking?

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Are you driving?

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Are you taking a bus?

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Yeah, yes, exactly.

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So are you putting unicycle down as your five year self?

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No, okay.

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It's very, I love it.

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So, but you need to know where you are.

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And that can be, it can be kind of challenging to look in the mirror and be open and

honest with yourself.

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But when you get real, that is how you start to grow.

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That is how you can start taking your first steps and going, okay, you know what?

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I'm not active.

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And I'm talking about myself right now.

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I'm not active right now.

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I...

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really wanting to have a higher energy in all areas of my life.

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And these are the things that I'm going to focus on.

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And sometimes it's hard.

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It's hard to look at yourself and go, I'm not the way I want to be.

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And it's on me to change it because a lot of the stuff is like, well, maybe if I go get

this thing or that thing or whatever, I'll feel better.

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But it's not in that it's about owning who you are and being okay with that so that you

can start your journey to where you want to be.

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such a good, such a good thing to share because I think a lot of people, you know, were

saying, hey, here's, you know, first podcast episode, first exercise, sit down and write

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down who the ideal version of you is in five years.

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And I think a lot of people, they might write down, oh, I'm making this much money and I

run marathons and things like that.

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Try to look past what society

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has told us equals a successful, happy person.

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And actually ask yourself, what do I really want to do?

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Who do I really want to be and how do I really want to feel?

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Because I'm not gonna be riding down marathons.

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Like, five-year cat did not run a marathon before she went to the party.

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Like, that would be an alternate universe.

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Okay, but maybe I went to yoga that morning, right?

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And so be true, who do you want?

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to who you are and try not to think about what the world expects of you or the

expectations of family or your spouse or anything like that and really give yourself the

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joy of deeply thinking about what you really want.

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Yeah, so I thought it'd be kind of fun to, like, we're talking about ourselves at the

party.

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I know for me, I am going to, I would show up as self help person, somebody who helps

people grow to become their best self.

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I would be somebody who truly embodies love.

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And I'm really working on that right now.

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I love that.

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I love myself, I love everyone around me, and I am truly coming from a place of purpose

where I wanna serve and help people.

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And I'm also in really, I just, I'm loving life.

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I like life right now.

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I don't love it, but I am working on loving all the good and bad things as they happen.

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We'll get to those things kind of in future episodes because there's ways that we're

finding out to deal with things or to handle things.

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And so that's who I am.

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I'm a bestselling author.

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I've got a community of people that are wanting to grow and that we're able to help.

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I'm lumping you in on this, but you know, that's probably something I shouldn't be doing,

but I know we've talked about this.

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a given.

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If you're working, I'm probably working with you because that's how we like to work.

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that's how we go.

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So that's me.

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That's who I want to be.

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And there's a lot of more coloring in I can do with that.

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And when I sit down and write it out, I will do that.

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And it's important to write it out too.

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But again, we can get to that in another episode.

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I can see that just comfortable with yourself, knowing you as long as I have, we're not

dressed up in a fancy suit, we're just literally just coming there, just rested and pure

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of heart.

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And I love that you said bestselling author.

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I think that is amazing.

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I would love that for both of us, for the five year versions, but it really can be.

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anything, even the people who are going through this exercise.

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It can be the thing that you've never actually admitted to yourself out loud.

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Something you've never told anybody, um, when it comes to your career or what you'd like,

or even where you'd like to live, like, where is the party?

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Like, did you fly there?

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Did you drive there?

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Like have fun with the exercise.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Enjoy, enjoy the process.

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You, I kind of look at it like, assume that you are at a restaurant and you are gonna give

the universe your order.

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So you're gonna write it all out and you're gonna go, this, this is what I want five years

from now.

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And a lot of it can be, you don't need to know how you're gonna do it.

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I think that's where most of us get tripped up.

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But when it comes to that stuff,

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We need to just be true to ourselves and go, you know what, I don't need fancy cars and

big houses.

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I just want to feel comfortable in a nice small place and or, you know, whatever it is.

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I want to have lots of friends.

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I want to have a few key, you know, a few good friends, whatever it is.

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So once you know that, then you can start to take steps towards that.

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And again, so we know where the house is.

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We know where we are, you know, where we wanna be in five years from now.

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And then it's time to start taking those first steps.

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So what I would suggest as when you're taking those first steps, be easy on yourself.

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If, and I'll use health because it's a really easy one.

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If you're gonna be...

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taking your first steps, maybe the first thing you do is you drink more water.

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Not eight glasses a day, because if you don't drink a lot of water right now, maybe that's

just the thing you do.

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But a first step can be, you know, always having water with you wherever you go.

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Really simple thing, really, really small change.

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But if you do that over five years, it compounds significantly.

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Maybe you move a little more.

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Maybe you weigh yourself every morning as motivation.

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Maybe you get a better sleep, whatever it is.

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There's a million things you can do to be part of this person that you wanna be.

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So just allow yourself to start doing.

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I love that.

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I think that's really great advice.

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And if you're comfortable sharing, you can also email us.

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We love to keep people accountable.

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We love to hear from people.

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So you can email us at hello at five year you and five year you.com.

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I will start that again for Steve, you can email us at hello at five year you.com and you

can tell us

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where you are right now and where you want to be in five years because we'd love to share

in the journey and we'd love to hear about it.

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Yeah, again, that's hello at five year you f I ve year you because.com and because it's

the two right.

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Yeah, yeah, so it's spelt out five.

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And we would love to hear we want to share in your growth.

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This is this is what I am put on this planet to do.

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I want to help you grow, I want to help you heal, and I want you to become the best person

you want to be.

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Absolutely.

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So this is our fresh start and we hope it's your fresh start too.

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We have so much to share and so many lessons we've learned to share and tips and future

episodes, but we're very grateful that you're here listening to the first one.

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Thank you very much.

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So to end this podcast, we're gonna share a glimmer.

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And Kat, do you wanna explain what a glimmer is?

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glimmers and like sparkly things and happy things.

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And I don't know, to me a glimmer is something good that's happened to you, something that

you wanna share.

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So for us, it could be a book that we recently read or a gadget because Andrew's like a

big tech guy who's always trying these cool new things.

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It might be something new we're trying or just something that we saw that just makes us

happy.

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something that we've done along our journey.

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So do you want to share, do you want to share a glimmer, Andrew?

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Um, well, I know what you're going to share as a glimmer and I just finished it yesterday.

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So I finished it on the plane last night.

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So I'm not going to steal your glimmer.

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Um, I would say what I am, uh, trying, what I'm really focused on right now is sleep.

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Um, and, uh, trying to get a good sleep schedule going.

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So I recently bought blackout curtains.

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And it is amazing how affordable they are.

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I think it was like $30 for the pair in my bedroom and it just blacks out everything.

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And it is so nice to have like no light coming in.

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It's a little bit weird getting used to it first, but if somebody, if you're looking at

getting better night's sleep, blackout curtains are like the bomb.

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Do people still say that?

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No, people don't say it.

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You will though.

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Again, you will.

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If it's corny and out of date, people will be the one to use it.

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My kids are going to be so embarrassed if they're not going to listen to this.

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But yes.

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So yeah, blackout blinds.

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That's, uh, that's my.

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I bought those when the twins were babies and they were just like gold.

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It was amazing.

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Gold meaning like so necessary and needed but I haven't had them in a while so that's

great.

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Yeah my glimmer is I started the year the first book I read this year was Atomic Habits

and then I told Andrew he also should start the year reading Atomic Habits.

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I just finished it yesterday.

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That's great.

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I

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I tried to listen to it a couple different times like when traveling and I never finished

it.

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So I just started it fresh, start to finish.

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Definitely recommend.

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The reason I read it is because I subscribed to James Clear's newsletter and he said it

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Like of all the books and all the genres across all platforms, the number one book last

year which is just unbelievable.

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So.

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I read it, it has lots of good tips.

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It's a quick listen if you like audio books like we do.

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It's like four or five hours, so yeah.

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And I thought that was amazing.

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Like there's just such this need to change our habits and stuff.

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So I just, I love that.

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I love that this book is so relevant still, you know, five years later and growing in

popularity.

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definitely something to aspire to as writers for sure.

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absolutely.

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Okay.

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Well, I think that's great.

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Um, yeah.

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So we just wanted to say thanks for listening.

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Um, it doesn't matter where you start, but so much that you do start and anyone can reach

their end goal once they start walking towards it.

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Yeah.

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And we are rooting for you every step of the way.

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Remember to hit subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.

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And you can follow us on social media at 5yearu.

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That's F-I-V-E, year you.

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And of course, if you want, cross that part out, I guess, because it might just be an

ending.

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OK.

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So just follow.

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Want to redo that one?

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let's do the ending the ending thing because that's not what I wanted to say either and

I'm like okay um what was it I it was so good.

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You can't know where you're going unless you know where you start, or now that you know

where you're starting, you can know where you're going, something like that.

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No, it was, yeah.

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It can take a sec, it's fine.

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All right, thank you very much for listening.

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And remember, it doesn't matter where you come from, it matters where you're going.

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So start the journey today.

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Yep, and we are rooting for you.

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That's it.

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Yeah.

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OK, so click End.

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And.

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Okay.